My world right now consists of the sound of tiny feet running across my kitchen floor, the endless train of snacks, and the busy bushel of activity. I’m a mom of two young kids. We live our life around meals and nap time. We are full of energy and activity.
Over the course of the last week, I have felt that so many people around me have forgotten what those days are like. The burn out I experience, the never-ending challenges I face, and the pure fact that I’m trying by best.
I love having young kids! They are so much fun to watch, seeing life from their point of view and excitement never gets old. However, it’s a lot of work. Most days I am just trying to keep up, trying my best.
My kids are toddlers, they are active toddlers. They are not going to sit still, they want to play and explore. They are well behaved kids, they are not throwing things around or being loud. However, they do want to walk around and move their body. I’m sorry if this is distracting to you, I’m sorry if this upsets you in stores, I’m sorry if this makes a family dinner too much work for you to attend, I’m sorry that our busyness makes it too much for you to watch.
I’m not trying to disrupt your life; however, we can’t just sit at home every day. I am a mom of two young kids, I am trying to still be a person in society too.
The burnout- I’m a mom of two young kids. I get burnt out. I need a break once a while. It doesn’t make me a bad mom. When you’re at your job from sun up to sun down, with multiple night time wake up calls, it could drive anyone to their breaking point. Some times when my kids are asleep in the car, I will sit in the drive way and look at my phone.
Sometimes I will run to the grocery store without make up and in my yoga pants and my dirty sweatshirt. Please don’t eye roll at me high school check out girl, your day will come.
Sometimes I will sit in my parked car crying because the idea of hauling in the groceries, the kids, and making another meal is too overwhelming.
UPS guy, I will answer the door in my husbands shorts, and his beer pong shirt from college with yesterdays mascara on. Please, you don’t need to eye roll at me as you hand me my package of diapers, shaking your head as you walk away.
When my son’s boot falls off in the parking lot as I put him in his car seat because don’t walk all the way over to my car and tell me “that baby should have a sock on, it’s cold out!!” I’m well aware of that, but you should have seen the meltdown we had just getting shoes on to get out the door. Please just pick up the boot and hand it to me, instead of coming over to yell at me about my parenting
Come on, I’m well aware that I can be a hot mess at times. I have two young kids. I’m trying my best, please cut me a break.
I feel like any woman who has older kids can forget the struggles of those days when you have young ones, those long days. They forget the energy it takes to go anywhere or the hardships you may have in your day. Maybe they have just blocked it out. They forget that you’re not just a mom, that you’re still a person. Deep, deep down you’re still you and you want to be apart of things. You want to be included even if it’s more work now that you have kids.
I’m a mom with two young kids, we have our great moments through out the day when our house is full of giggles and smiles. We have our moments where mom cries in the drive way or over the steaming dish washer unloading the tenth load of the day. When you see a mom at a low, struggling… please don’t make her feel even more alone. Smile and just tell her she is doing a good job. Reach out and just offer a smile. Moms of young kids… they are people too!