“Just because you have a bad day, doesn’t mean you have a bad life.”
It sounds so simple, but why is it some days it’s so hard to remember. When you are crazy busy trying to get everyone dressed and out the door, the toddler has toothpaste all over the bathroom floor, the baby is pulling out the outlet plugs, the dogs barking to go outside, and the washing machine is buzzing at you. It’s hard not to feel overwhelmed. It’s hard not to feel like you are failing at everything, that you’re not accomplishing anything correctly. It’s hard to feel like your whole world is not mass chaos.
Motherhood can, at times, feel as if the walls are closing in on you. Feeling overwhelmed by the amount of people depending on you, or the number of things you need to accomplish.
You can feel like your life is an endless trail of demands from the toddler, dirty diapers, and repeated battles with the kids (aka bed time in our house). The meal time, diaper change, bed/nap time battle and repeat mind set can be draining.
To all the moms out there, don’t feel alone! When you become a mother, you are entered into this new club. A group of women who are ALL struggling with the same thing! We all feel like it’s too overwhelming, too hard, and feel like we are failing. Some show it more than others, but we ALL feel this way. YOU are not ALONE!
We all have those days where we just sit there on the kitchen floor crying that we have to clean up the plate of food that we just prepared and is now on the floor because the toddler would rather eat Lucky Charms. We have those dark days of motherhood.
And we have those days, where we can just sail through it. Everything is ok, and everything goes smoothly. We wonder why we thought this mommy thing is hard?
No matter the day, you’re not alone!
You need to find your mom community! This can feel overwhelming too! Trust me, I struggled with this for years. Finally, I just had to jump. I’m not an outgoing person!!!! I like to stay at home and play with the kids. However, it was killing my spirit to do so.
Find your mom community. Look for a local MOPS group (Mother of Pre-school or younger), ask the woman pushing her kid in the swing at the park if she wants to go get a cup of coffee, join an online community such as ours!
Find that group of people, you need to have that outlet. You need to have a group of moms to unload on, to cry with, to laugh at your mistakes with.
NO ONE can do motherhood alone! No one! I love my husband but he just physically can’t understand what I go through in a day. The planning it takes to leave the house to run to Target, the wrestling of the kids at the doctor’s office, the endless sippy cup refills.
You need a support of fellow mommies, who can understand your feelings and your struggles. Ones who get how much work it can be some days to get out of the house.
Just because you are having a bad day, you are not failing! You are doing a good job! Even if you have to write it on a post it note on your bathroom mirror, remember that every day!!
Motherhood can be challenging at times, you are allowed to question why you signed up for this at times.
Just reminder, you’re not failing. It’s just a bad day, it will pass. Have a glass of wine and go to bed… tomorrow will be easier.